Disclaimer: I wrote this post in a fit of rage.
My mother did not have a good childhood. Her father was physically present but emotionally void. Her mother, a former nun, battled depression. They were a fairly regular middle class family, but her father hoarded their money forcing them to live below their means. I remember hearing these stories and dreaming of traveling back in time to make my mother’s childhood memories sunny and filled with lovely family time, much like the childhood I remember. I was young so at the time I thought a fancy comforter and a few board games would do the trick.
Now my memories are a jigsaw puzzle of conversations from car rides, shopping trips, museum outings and luncheons. As mentioned before, I contacted my Uncle Harry, my mother’s younger brother (played by Beau Bridges). After sending my inquiry he called my father. Rather than go into an ‘I am an adult’ rant I think I’ll give my soapbox collection a rest. So if we’re telling secrets, I hadn’t told my father about mamaquest so much as I hadn’t mentioned it at all. I had my reasons. Don’t worry, my father and I spoke. He gave me his blessing. Just spit-balling here but he should write a book about how to be a great father, because he said, “If writing the blog makes you happy, then you should do it. I just don’t want you to worry about me.” Yes, ok, Dad, I won’t worry about you. First I just need to call Neo so he can plug me back in.
Crisis, I thought, had been avoided and the quest was back on! Then today I received an email from Uncle Harry. I thought ‘first interview here I come!’ But no one is going anywhere. He said he didn’t want to do a video interview, to which I said fine in hopes that once I arrived he would change his mind. No, he also declined to speak with me in person or give me any pictures that would be put on ‘the internet.’ You might be asking, ‘Why pray tell?’
Well my NRA-loving, conspiracy theorist of an uncle thinks the CIA and the FBI are after him. It’s embarrassing, but true. To maintain his anonymity he’d like to steer clear of the interwebs. I may think it’s selfish but I guess that’s my issue. Onward and upward.
Clarification: 1. Since this post wasn’t written in a fit of rage due to a very insulting and curt email I received earlier, I would like to clarify. I am not in the business of making anyone do anything they don’t want to. I don’t want to censor. I want to be sensitive to my readers. These are aspirations and intent. I’m not always so good with follow through. I respect my Uncle’s decision and will no longer push the issue with him, but I wish he had been more respectful and I wish he had the decency to just give me a call and talk about it. 2. One of my very smart readers caught a clarification I did not make about the CIA. Here is an excerpt, “the CIA is a government agent focusing solely on foreign affairs… unless he [your uncle] is a foreign national or living on foreign soil, the CIA could care less.”